The Wandering Poet

Buffy Brinkley on the Things that Inspire my Life, my Pen, and my Heart.

I Suppose I Shouldn’t Get Upset…

on February 23, 2016

While I have only been using social media for a few years, I have observed its machinations for quite some time. I have watched it evolve from the clunky, rough Model-T to the sleek Lamborghini.  But, regardless of how hard or easy it is to use, or how amateur or polished it looks, social media ultimately becomes a yard of broken down vehicles and rusted out parts if used irresponsibly. In other words, it becomes useless. And, if not properly contained and managed, it can become harmful.

I suppose I shouldn’t get upset, but when something is posted in good humor (and it’s obviously in good humor), the person who posted it shouldn’t then have to be bombarded with negative comments. It’s very simple: If you don’t like what someone else posted, then do the world a big favor and ignore it. Unless you were tagged directly to it, it wasn’t aimed at you. So, don’t take it personally. Furthermore, no one has time to cater to the delicate sensibilities of everyone else. And nor should anyone have to!  On social media, everyone has certain inalienable rights in dealing with messages and people they do not like:

  • Block the person (you can’t see them, they can’t see you, and ne’er shall you cross paths again)
  • Mute the person (you’ll stop seeing their messages)
  • Unfollow the the person/Ignore their posts

Richard Armitage deleted two posts yesterday, and those who follow him have seen several other posts disappear from his page. Doing so is his prerogative. I would no sooner tell him what to do with his page than I would tell anyone else, but what prompted him to do so is another matter entirely.  Just before the deletions, a surge of negativity bombarded the posts in question.  And, what for?  He wasn’t being negative.  He wasn’t being disrespectful. He found something humorous.  He shared it with us. His post was harmless. And yet, people jumped at the chance to blast him for *poking fun* at people and places and things that they were not a party to, have no stake in, and aren’t personally affected by! It’s one thing to calmly state your disagreement with something, but it’s quite another matter entirely to be rude about it.

NO ONE has the right to bombard another person’s page/posts with negativity! If it doesn’t affect YOUR page, kindly keep your thoughts to yourself! Whether bombarding them is in an effort to get them to go away or to remove a post that upset you, you don’t have the right! Why? Because it’s their post.  They have the right, just like you, to post whatever they wish on their page.  You don’t have to agree with it. You don’t have to like it. Nobody asked you to.

Come on, people! Can you please at least attempt to see past your own noses? Try to put yourself in Mr. Armitage’s shoes for a moment: You found something humorous. You shared it with those who follow you.  Then, you’re suddenly bombarded by negativity about what you posted. And, it’s RELENTLESS! How does that make you feel?

If you have a soul at all, I hope you said that it makes you feel abused and bullied. Now that you’ve had a taste of empathy, I hope you now understand how boorish you made yourself look yesterday. Richard Armitage is a very conscientious, compassionate, empathetic human being. He wouldn’t purposefully offend anyone. And, the fact that he deleted the posts in question shows that he’s willing to make sacrifices to keep the peace. But, he shouldn’t have to make those sacrifices.  No one should. Doing so effectively denies him the right to show his personality. And, frankly, he really shouldn’t hide it.  He’s a good man. He may, in fact, have deleted those messages for entirely different reasons, but the correlation between the surges of negativity and the deletions is too much of a coincidence for the aforementioned not to at least be considered a motivation for him to do so.

I wrote a blog several months ago that puts using social media within a perspective I believe everyone might appreciate.  It’s called First, Post No Cruelty. I invite you to click on the link and give it a read. Please try to think before you post something negative.  Please try to think about if what you’re about to post would make you unhappy if you received it from someone else. And remember: everyone has a right to be here.  Even you.

Thank you.




4 responses to “I Suppose I Shouldn’t Get Upset…

  1. Teuchter says:

    Beautifully written! I just felt like applauding when I read it. And believe me, although I am not on Twitter etc. it ALL needed to be said! Poor Richard! I wish he would just ignore the comments and make our day/s more often! 😉 May I add that your poem at the end touched my heart. Thanks Buffy!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Maria says:

    Could not have said it better myself!! Well done.. If only everyone would heed your advice

    Liked by 1 person

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